Rocco's Arrival and First Play Date

I am long overdue for a new blog entry. The last one was back in April. I have good reason to be overdue. Since April I have started a new job, prepared our house for baby, and well had a baby. Rocco Patrick Glass has arrived. In keeping with the late trend he was overdue as well. Rocco was born on July 31st at 7:43pm, weighing 7lbs 9oz.
After facing the mental, physical, emotional, and financial challenges of IVF, we now have our son. Jarrett and I could not be more in love with him.

Rocco Patrick Glass



Rocco was born on a stormy night here in Charlotte. The nurses at the hospital said babies born during storms and full moons tend to cause chaos. Rocco did just that. He swallowed meconium and had to visit the NICU. Fun fact: that night 3 other babies were born at our hospital and all ended up in NICU in a span of 2 hours. Guess the nurses were right about chaos.

Rocco made a quick recovery and was released from hospital 3 days later. Getting to bring Rocco home was surreal. Our dogs fell in love with Rocco and welcomed him to the pack. We knew the animals would adjust to having a baby in the house but just how well they adjusted was surprising. Before baby they would greet us excitedly at the door and demanded our attention before we could do anything else. Now when we arrive home  the dogs only care about making sure we have the infant carrier in hand. The first time we left and came back with Rocco our dog Lucy met us at the door,stuck her head into Rocco's carrier, and immediately gave Rocco's head a lick. SO CUTE!!!!

Rocco & Lucy

 



Just before Rocco was born we received an invitation for his first play date. At just 2 weeks old Rocco got to meet Kyle and Samantha Busch. They had provided us the grant for IVF that made Rocco possible. The play date also included the 13 other Bundle of Joy Foundation babies. It was really awesome to meet with the other families who had been through the exact same thing we had. All of us are forever connected to the Busch Family and this foundation. It sounds like the play date could be an annual thing. We hope it is so we can watch Rocco grow up with his fellow Bundle of Joy babies. 

See link below to view video from the Bundle of Joy play date.

 

Bundle of Joy Play Date Video

 

 

                      First Play Date                      

 

                                                            
The Bundle of Joy Families

 

A few months later we celebrated Rocco's arrival with a Sip N See party. It was wonderful getting to welcome family and friends to meet him. It was a fiesta themed party complete with tacos,beer, and sombrero's. Rocco slept though his entire party. Guess he was in more of a siesta mood. We did get a few pictures before he fell asleep.

Sip N See Party 

We are so fortunate to have a happy, healthy, and sweet little boy.  We waited so long for Rocco. Now that he is here we are looking forward to sharing in the many adventures life has to offer.

 

IVF BABY

Talking about Infertility Awareness and sharing hope with our gender reveal.

This week is National Infertility Awareness Week. This week unites millions of Americans who want to remove the stigmas and barriers that stand in the way of building families. That description comes from the infertility awareness website but it also perfectly describes how I feel about the whole infertility situation. There is no reason that there should be any stigma attached to infertility, yet in 2018 it is still a taboo subject for many.

When Jarrett and I revealed our struggles to conceive we were met with an outpouring of love and support from family and friends. That didn't mean we didn't receive our share of opinions and suggestions on the subject. Let's go through the list the greatest hits shall we.

 "Why don't you just adopt?"

"Not everyone is meant to be parents."

"Oh you just think you have to have a baby that looks like you."

"Why should I pay for your choice to have IVF?"

Some of those comments were from strangers, some from those closer to us. Now the responses I wanted to give were not the nicest of thoughts. I kept them to myself because comments like the ones I listed most often came from well meaning, but uninformed individuals.

If you have never dealt with infertility you can't fully understand the struggle. There are a lot of misconceptions about those who face infertility. Here are just a few.

 We chose IVF because we think adoption is beneath us.

 - Completely not true. Adoption was an option that we looked at, and still consider. The cost of adoption is just as expensive (in most cases it cost more) as IVF and it to does not guarantee a child. Adoption is not as easy as people would like to believe. Too often our favorite TV shows makes it look as simple as calling an agency and then 2 weeks later you have a perfect infant in your arms. Before you tell someone to "just adopt" please know the process of adoption.

When IVF is covered by insurance it will cause rates to increase.

- Not true. A lot of employers found when they added infertility coverage to insurance plans that cost decreased. 

Destroying leftover embryos from IVF is the same as an abortion.

- That is false . Just because an embryo is created does not mean it would even implant once transferred. An embryo are simply cells.

IVF patients just want to play God.

- This remark has been made too often. IVF patients are simply doing what anyone else with a disease does. We seek treatment for our issues. Yes, I had the chance to choose which gender of embryo I transferred. Yes, I had the opportunity thanks to genetic testing to know my child had the correct number of chromosomes. That wasn't playing "God." That was making the best choice for my future child. I call that being a parent.

The good news in all of this is that overwhelmingly the number of people out there understand IVF is simply a means to have a baby. This is sadly because the number of people with infertility issues is growing. Most people know someone who have underwent IVF or have gone through the process themselves. Slowly the stigma surrounding IVF is beginning to lessen. This  is a key element that is needed in order to keep rights for infertility patients.

If you are reading this and wanting to know how to help those with infertility it is easy to do.  Have a heart. #Haveaheart is the official campaign of RESOLVE, which advocates for infertility patients. It means several different things but to me this is the thing it means most: show you care. There are many sites out there with great advice on how to help those though the infertility struggle. 

For Jarrett and I the best support we received were the simple things. A phone call to just check in and let someone know you care goes a long way.

Getting the Bundle of Joy grant was a completely different type of support. We know we among the very few who received financial assistance. There are not many charities out there that give out grants. If you are looking for a great charity to support I can't say enough about Bundle of Joy. This charity assist couples in North Carolina through the REACH clinic. Our baby will be the 14th baby born thanks to the charity.

I promised in the title of this blog post that we would reveal the gender of our baby. When the time came to reveal the gender to family and friends we want to do something that would show our journey. We also wanted it to give hope to anyone going through infertility when they watched it. Jarrett is TV producer so he put his production skills to work. Thanks to his hard work and some assistance from two very special people, we had our one of a kind gender reveal. You won't see this on any Pinterest search but you can see it here....

                         Baby Glass Gender Reveal

Our IVF Journey isn't over even with a baby on the way

In my last post I asked you to stayed tuned so I won't delay the results of our embryo transfer any longer....we are pregnant! We just didn't get pregnant with our first transfer.
 
We opted to have a fresh embryo transfer which took place just five days after our egg retrieval. I don't believe in looking at the past but I know some of you are going through IVF or planning to. All I can say is don't underestimate how invasive IVF is to your body. It was a combination of my underestimation of IVF and being impatient that lead to us opting for a fresh transfer.  Some studies have shown a slight advantage in frozen transfers but it is always best to consult with your own medical team before making a decision.

Having an unsuccessful transfer was difficult but we still had hope. We were very fortunate to have two other embryos that were available for us to try again with. Our medical team wanted us to try again with a frozen transfer right away. I on the other hand was not ready to begin another regimen of shots, blood work, and ultrasounds. In total we took two months off from IVF. This time off allowed my body to fully recover from the egg retrieval. We also took a vacation for some much needed fun.

In October 2017 we were ready to begin our frozen embryo transfer. Both types of transfers are similar but a frozen transfer actually required about five weeks of preparation before the transfer would take place. Once again I began taking shots. This time I only had to take one shot per night. This lasted for about three weeks until we were ready for transfer day.

I have been asked about how we picked a time to do our shots since they must be taken at the same time each day. We chose to do our shots around 9pm. This way we could get everything we needed done through the day and be able to do the shots at home. Now that doesn't mean that we were always home. There were a few times I had to "shoot up" in parking lots like when our good friends got married and the time we attended a broadway show. We even took our medications along to the NASCAR race in Martinsville because we weren't sure if we would be home in time.

Transfer Day arrived on November 8th.  Having been through a transfer once before I knew what to expect. Not going to lie when I say the best part is getting to take a Valium before the procedure. IVF is nerve-wracking so getting medical assistance to stay relaxed was alright by me. Plus the nap you get to take after transfer is some of the best sleep you can get.
My best part of transfer day is getting the first picture of the embryo.  Sorry parents of non IVF babies but this is where IVF wins. A first ultrasound picture is cool but it just doesn't get any better than seeing a picture of your baby when it is only cells, which you only get when doing IVF. 

Once I was wheeled into the procedure room we were able to see our embryo on a TV screen. Next comes the really fun part. We were able to watch as our embryo was transferred from the petri dish into the catheter, and then placed in my uterus. It is the craziest thing getting to see your future baby be placed into the womb. Thank you science!!

Us on transfer day in all our medical gear..and Jarrett sporting one of his goofy faces

Once again it was time to now spend the next 12 days waiting for the results. Waiting is the hardest part so this time we decided to get away for a few days. The day following our procedure we drove to the beach to spend a couple of nights. We took our dogs and just spent the days sitting on the beach and eating at all of our favorite foods. I highly recommend doing something like this if you go through IVF. I'm not saying that this is the reason why our transfer was successful but it certainly didn't hurt.

Some relaxing beach time

Finally the day came for the blood test to confirm if this transfer worked. It was the Monday before Thanksgiving when we got the call that we were finally pregnant. Hearing the doctor tell us she had
good news was surreal but it didn't mean we could just sit back and celebrate. In IVF you have to continue progesterone shots and take extra estrogen into your 11th week of pregnancy. That's right...more needles. IVF pregnancy's are also monitored on a weekly basis.

Baby Glass is due in late July. He or She will be the 14th baby born thanks to the Bundle of Joy Fund. Jarrett and I believe that all of this happened for a reason. We are determined to stand up for the rights of those facing infertility. I am actively petitioning my workplace to add infertility coverage to the insurance plan offered. Surprising fact, research has shown that adding infertility coverage can actually lower cost of insurance.

We share our journey through infertility and IVF to help lessen the stigma attached to it. IVF isn't just something famous people do, it isn't something that people chose because they think adoption isn't good enough. We do IVF because it gives us the best opportunity to have a family. The United States is one of just a few nations that does not treat infertility for what it is which is a health issue. It's time that changed.

We are going to keep blogging to keep you updated not only on the progress of Baby Glass but the progress we must make in honor of Baby Glass. We have dealt with the challenges of IVF and infertility. I am not afraid of any religious group who says IVF should be banned because it is not "god's will." Yes these people exist and are actively trying to pass legislation to make IVF illegal. I won't fear in taking on a CEO, member of congress, senators, organizations, or anyone else who wants to stand in the way of the rights of those with infertility any longer.

Baby Glass due July 2018